How to build confidence and courage
More important than what we get in life is what we become. Life is precious and priceless and so are we. When we change ourselves we also change the world around us. What we do and what we are, are inextricably linked in a dynamic cycle. As rational being we can consciously change our thinking pattern ad behavior. The steps outlined below could help develop courage in us.
1) Face up reality
Rational is a psychological defense commonly used to avoid dealing with painful realities, and hence by default, accepting long term pain. Refusing to acknowledge and accept reality becomes a mindset. When we don’t see reality we start living in the past or in the future. We don’t stop there. We distort reality and build up fears and and doubts. We often worry about things that may never happen. Such imagined fears weaken a person.
2) Re-examine your value system and take a stand
Guidance may be sought from people who have a clear value system and courage to take a stand. This is the guide that distinguishes courage from recklessness and stubbornness
3) Build character, build courage
Character is the foundation that helps us confront our false beliefs and build courage. We need to review our core values and principles and resolve to be a person of integrity
4) Practice small acts of courage
Courage is not like money in the bank. The more you spend it the more you get in return. We avoid the act of courage often for reason of complacence and apathy than cowardice. We then become so comfortable with our discomfort that we start loving it. The trouble is that many of the problems we face today may have been solved more easily with a small courageous decision taken in the past.
5) Perfect practice leads to preparation
Prepare by trying to anticipate situations, and then be ready for the totally unexpected. Remember, Practice does not make you perfect but makes permanent whatever you practice. Small choices in life end up becoming significant choices and prepare a person to face the bigger challenges of life.